I was super stoked about my postcard from a person who is a member of an online group I belong to. It was a surprise – we’d not been in communication. There is a file where group members can share their addresses if they would like to get mail, so I left mine. (I’ve covered up our addresses here with cough drops).
I thought it was really cute and inventive. The postcard has washi tape with botanical images on it, and rubber stamp markings. There is also a tiny envelope! How creative!
This is what was inside.
The cleverly designed thing folds out into a strip with washi tape with constellations on it.
…but now I feel left out because of all that this person got. She posted it on the group page and tagged her, so I know it is from her.
…and here is a picture from another person – more stuff that she got from this member.
Both say it was a surprise – that they weren’t already friends with her.
I’m really jealous.
Which is a terrible thing to feel because it wasn’t like she promised me anything at all. I should be grateful, but in comparison to the other people’s mail, I feel sad and jealous. And I hate feeling like that.
They had no way of knowing that there was any inequality. But I’m sure there are others in the group who didn’t get a letter and they are wondering “why not me?”
It is something I wrestle with on my personal page. Do I share pictures of a party I went to where some friends weren’t invited? They will know they were left out.
I hate it when friends in a group invite people to go to a new restaurant or experience, and don’t invite me. I know they don’t because they either don’t tag me on the invite – which I can see because I am friends with them, or because they post pictures of the “good times with good friends”, and I wasn’t there.
I hate it. And it keeps happening. And last night I’d finally had it and cried big ugly tears and I still don’t feel better about it.
Social media isn’t social sometimes. Sometimes it just lets you know how much you are missing out on. It feels like bullying.
Think before you post.