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Just say no.

Here’s a way to stop unwanted pregnancies: stop having sex.

Unless you are emotionally, financially, and in every other way ready to have a child, don’t have sex. No birth control is a sure thing like abstinence.

Not sure if the guy you are dating is father or husband material? Don’t have sex with him. Getting pregnant only makes a bad situation worse. A baby won’t bring you closer together. It may make him run away.

No worries about having an abortion if you never get pregnant. You won’t get pregnant if you don’t have sex. Seems simple, I know, but so few people seem to get this.

Sex is one of the strongest impulses that humans have, but it can be gotten around. Sex isn’t like food. You can live without sex. You can’t say the same about food.

If you don’t want to go to Chicago, don’t head down that road. Don’t even get in the car. If you don’t want to have babies, don’t fool around. That train is hard to stop once it gets started.

I have never understood why there is so much debate about being pro-choice versus being pro-life. To me, that seems like people are focusing on the wrong end of the problem. The time to start the discussion is before sex even happens. It is too late when she is pregnant.

The horse is already out of the barn.
Lock the barn door and you don’t have to run around trying to catch him.

Oh, and you say abstinence isn’t a possibility? Really? Are we really just like wild animals, rutting with whatever and whoever?

I’d like to think that part of being human is having some self-control.

As adults, we don’t pee everywhere. We don’t yell all the time. We don’t hit everybody when we are mad. We learn to control these impulses. We learn when and where it is safe to let these impulses happen.

Sex is the same thing.

It is way past the time we stop even talking about pro-choice and pro-life. It is time to start preventing unwanted pregnancies in the first place.

It is embarrassing how many unwanted pregnancies there are in a supposedly “first-world” nation like the United States. It is sad how much poverty and heartache and tension is created from it. It isn’t tragic. It isn’t an accident. It is entirely preventable.

If you don’t want babies, don’t have sex. Or if you must have sex, use multiple forms of birth control at the same time, and use them correctly. Think about it before you even start kissing each other. Think about it while your clothes are still on.

Feel uncomfortable talking about birth control with your significant other? Then you sure aren’t ready to be a parent.

2 thoughts on “Just say no.

  1. Of course abstinence ipossible, but so is living without eating green vegetables. Mounds of research indicate that relationships are happier and healthier with a regular sex life. Humans evelved to be bonded by the experience, and yet we live in a society where procreating frequently no longer has the same benefit.

    I’m certainly not saying every teenager should be having sex. There are all sorts of risks that can affect you for life. Butt o ask people in long term relationships who may not be ready for kids to give up an activity which has evolved to bring happiness and pair bond couples is to ask for a decrease in both quality of life and relational stability.

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    • Nothing takes away from the closeness of a long-term committed relationship like an unwanted pregnancy, either. It is entirely possible to be celibate within a marriage. There are other ways to show affection than sex. But then again, the majority of unwanted pregnancies occur in non-covenanted relationships. They would certainly benefit from abstinence. The sad thing is that of all the pregnancies I’ve heard of among friends and family and coworkers – only one, in years, has been intentional. We all have to be more mindful about sex. It is like playing Russian roulette.

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