Survival Books

These are survival books. They won’t tell you how to make a solar still to distill water, or how to start a fire with a piece of flint. They will tell you how to survive a terrible childhood. Many of us were raised in dysfunctional families. Sadly, “dysfunctional” is the new “normal.” We spend a lot of our adult lives trying to undo all the damage that was done to us. These books can help you on your journey. If you can’t find these at your local library, ask them to order these via Inter-Library Loan.

These are all books that I’ve read and found very helpful.

CALL # 616.8522 N9743y.
AUTHOR NurrieStearns, Mary.
TITLE Yoga for anxiety : meditations and practices for calming the body and mind / Mary NurrieStearns, Rick NurrieStearns.
IMPRINT Oakland, CA : New Harbinger Publications, c2010.
DESCRIPT viii, 218 p. : ill. ; 23 cm.
ISBN/ISSN 9781572246515 (pbk. : alk. paper)
ISBN/ISSN 1572246510 (pbk. : alk. paper)

CALL # 152.47 S472a.
AUTHOR Semmelroth, Carl.
TITLE The anger habit in relationships : a communication handbook for relationships, marriages and partnerships / Carl Semmelroth.
IMPRINT Naperville, Ill. : Sourcebooks, c2005.
DESCRIPT 146 p. ; 21 cm..
ISBN/ISSN 1402203578 (alk. paper)

CALL # 291.44 T651p.
AUTHOR Tolle, Eckhart, 1948-
TITLE The power of now : a guide to spiritual enlightenment / Eckhart Tolle.
IMPRINT Novato, Calif. : New World Library, 1999.
DESCRIPT xxiii, 193 p. ; 24 cm.
ISBN/ISSN 1577314808 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 9781577314806 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 1577311523 (alk. paper)

CALL # 301.11 P88w.
AUTHOR Powell, John Joseph, 1925-
TITLE Why am I afraid to tell you who I am? : insights on self- awareness, personal growth and interpersonal communication / by John Powell.
IMPRINT Chicago : Argus Communications, [c1969]
DESCRIPT 167 p. : ill. (part col.) ; 19 cm.
SERIES Peacock books.
ISBN/ISSN 0913592021.

CALL # 362.82 F7459t 1990.
AUTHOR Forward, Susan.
TITLE Toxic parents : overcoming their hurtful legacy and reclaiming your life / Susan Forward with Craig Buck.
EDITION Bantam paperback ed.
IMPRINT New York : Bantam Books, 1990, c1989.
DESCRIPT 324 p. ; 18 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 324)
SUBJECT Dysfunctional families — United States.
SUBJECT Adult child abuse victims — United States.
SUBJECT Codependency — United States.
SUBJECT Abusive parents — United States.
ALT AUTHOR Buck, Craig.
ISBN/ISSN 0553381407 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 0553284347 (pbk.)

CALL # 616.869 B3696c 1992.
AUTHOR Beattie, Melody.
TITLE Codependent no more : how to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself / Melody Beattie.
EDITION 2nd ed.
IMPRINT [Center City, MN] : Hazelden, 1992.
DESCRIPT 250 p. ; 21 cm.
ISBN/ISSN 0894864025 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 9780874864025 (pbk.)

CALL # 362.29 F9117a.
AUTHOR Friel, John C., 1947-
TITLE An adult child’s guide to what is “normal” / John C. Friel, Linda D. Friel.
IMPRINT Deerfield Beach, Fla. : Health Communications, c1990.
DESCRIPT xiv, 245 p. : ill. ; 22 cm.
SUBJECT Adult children of alcoholics — Rehabilitation.
SUBJECT Adult children of narcotic addicts — Rehabilitation.
SUBJECT Adult children of dysfunctional families — Rehabilitation.
SUBJECT Alcoholics rehabilitation.
ALT AUTHOR Friel, Linda D.
ADD TITLE Dysfunctional families.
ISBN/ISSN 1558740902.

CALL # 158.2 S877d.
AUTHOR Stone, Douglas.
TITLE Difficult conversations : how to discuss what matters most / Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen.
IMPRINT New York : Viking, 1999.
DESCRIPT 250 p. ; 24 cm.
SUBJECT Interpersonal communication.
ALT AUTHOR Patton, Bruce.
ALT AUTHOR Heen, Sheila.
ISBN/ISSN 014028852X (Penguin pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 0670883395.

CALL # 248.4 C6471b.
AUTHOR Cloud, Henry.
TITLE Boundaries : when to say yes, when to say no to take control of your life / Henry Cloud, John Townsend.
IMPRINT Grand Rapids, Mich. : Zondervan Pub. House, c1992.
DESCRIPT 304 p. ; 24 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 297-298) and index.
SUBJECT Conduct of life.
SUBJECT Christian life.
SUBJECT Interpersonal relations — Religious aspects — Christianity.
ALT AUTHOR Townsend, John Sims, 1952-
ISBN/ISSN 9780310247456 (trade pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 0310247454 (trade pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 0310585902.

Remember, it isn’t your fault that your family was crazy. That was their choice. What they did to you wasn’t right. You have a way out of this place where you feel stuck.

These are other books on the same subject that look interesting, but I haven’t read yet.

CALL # 158.1 T341i.
AUTHOR Tessina, Tina B.
TITLE It ends with you : grow up and out of dysfunction / by Tina B. Tessina.
IMPRINT Franklin Lakes, NJ : New Page Books, c2003.
DESCRIPT 224 p. ; 24 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 209) and index.
ISBN/ISSN 1564146499 (cloth)

CALL # 248.86 W7532r.
AUTHOR Wilson, Sandra D., 1938-
TITLE Released from shame : recovery for adult children of dysfunctional families / Sandra D. Wilson.
IMPRINT Downers Grove, Ill. : InterVarsity Press, c1990.
DESCRIPT 201 p. ; 21 cm.
SERIES People helper books.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. [197]-201)
SUBJECT Adult children of dysfunctional families — United States —
Religious life.
SUBJECT Adult children of dysfunctional families — United States —
Pastoral counseling of.
SUBJECT Christian life.
ISBN/ISSN 0830816011 (pbk.) :

CALL # 362.292 B398.
TITLE Becoming your own parent : the solution for adult children of alcoholic and other dysfunctional families / [edited by] Dennis
Wholey.
EDITION 1st ed.
IMPRINT New York : Doubleday, 1988.
DESCRIPT 285 p. ; 25 cm.
ALT AUTHOR Wholey, Dennis, 1937-

CALL # 616.85822 F2343a.
AUTHOR Farmer, Steven.
TITLE Adult children of abusive parents : a healing program for those who have been physically, sexually, or emotionally abused / Steven Farmer.
EDITION 1st Ballantine Books ed.
IMPRINT New York : Ballantine, 1990, c1989.
DESCRIPT xvi, 207 p. ; 24 cm.
NOTE Include bibliographical references (p. [195]-1960 and index.
NOTE Includes index.
SUBJECT Adult child abuse victims — Mental health.
ADD TITLE Abusive parents.
ISBN/ISSN 0345363884 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 9780345363886 (pbk.)

CALL # 158.1 L21t.
AUTHOR LaMar, Donna F.
TITLE Transcending turmoil : survivors of dysfunctional families / Donna F. LaMar.
IMPRINT New York : Plenum Press, c1992.
DESCRIPT xiv, 299 p. ; 22 cm.

NOTE “Insight books.”
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 267-289) and index.

CALL # 158 W86r.
AUTHOR Wolin, Steven J.
TITLE The resilient self : how survivors of troubled families rise above adversity / Steven J. Wolin and Sybil Wolin.
EDITION 1st ed.
IMPRINT New York : Villard Books, 1992.
DESCRIPT xiv, 238 p. : ill. ; 24 cm.
NOTE Pain and opportunity — The challenge of the troubled family —
To name the damage is to conquer it — Reframing: how to resist
the victim’s trap — Seven resiliencies — Insight: forewarned
is forearmed — Independence: a delicate negotiation —
Relationships: the search for love — Initiative: the pleasure
in problems — Creativity: nothing into something — Humor:
something into nothing — Morality: holiness in an unholy
world.

Want more? Look up the subjects of “dysfunctional families”, “codependency,” “adult children of dysfunctional families”, “adult child abuse victims” “Adult children of dysfunctional families – Rehabilitation”

Autism and Asperger’s resources

I have several friends and patrons who have children with autism or Asperger’s syndrome. I kept gathering post-it notes of helpful resources for them. I finally decided to put them all together in one place. Most of these deal with how to help your child (or yourself) navigate an often-confusing world. They aren’t about medication at all, but behavior modification. These books serve as a sort of occupational therapy, but without the cost. They give insight to parents and friends about what the world of autism and Asperger’s is like. You can find these at your local library. If your library does not have it – ask them to order it via Inter-Library Loan.

CALL # j616.8589 Q75p 2012.
AUTHOR Quinn, Patricia O.
TITLE Putting on the brakes : understanding and taking control of your ADD or ADHD / by Patricia O. Quinn and Judith M. Stern.
EDITION 3rd ed.
IMPRINT Washington, DC : Magination Press, c2012.
DESCRIPT 112 p. : ill. ; 24 cm.
NOTE “Self-help guide and resource for preteens with attention deficit
disorder (ADD) or attention deficit-hyperactivity disorder
(ADHD). Includes strategies to manage disorder and practical
ways to improve organization, focus, studying, and homework
skills. Also tips for making friends, controlling emotions, and
being healthy”– Provided by publisher.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 107-110)
SUBJECT Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder — Juvenile literature.
ALT AUTHOR Stern, Judith M.
ISBN/ISSN 9781433811357.
ISBN/ISSN 1433811359.
ISBN/ISSN 9781433811340 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 1433811340 (pbk.)

CALL # j618.928 H8872w.
AUTHOR Huebner, Dawn.
TITLE What to do when your brain gets stuck : a kid’s guide to overcoming OCD / by Dawn Huebner ; illustrated by Bonnie Matthews.
IMPRINT Washington, D.C. : Magination Press, c2007.
DESCRIPT 95 p. : ill. ; 28 cm.
SERIES “What to do” guides for kids.
SERIES “What to do” guides for kids.
NOTE [This book] guides children and parents through the cognitive-
behavioral techniques used to treat obsessive-compulsive
disorder. This interactive self-help book turns kids into
super-sleuths who can recognize and more appropriately respond
to OCD’s tricks. With engaging examples, activities, and step-
by-step instructions, it helps children master the skills
needed to break free from OCD’s sticky thoughts and urges, and
live happier lives. This What-to-do guide is the complete
resource for educating, motivating, and empowering children to
work toward change.-Back cover.
SUBJECT Obsessive-compulsive disorder in children — Juvenile literature.
ALT AUTHOR Matthews, Bonnie, 1963- ill.
ISBN/ISSN 9781591478058 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 1591478057 (pbk.)

CALL # 371.940835 B1677s.
AUTHOR Baker, Jed.
TITLE The social skills picture book : for high school and beyond / by Jed Baker.
IMPRINT Arlington, TX : Future Horizons, 2006.
DESCRIPT 177 p. : ill. ; 23 x 31 cm.
NOTE Previously published as: Social skills picture book.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Education.
ADD TITLE Social skills picture book.
ISBN/ISSN 1932565353.
ISBN/ISSN 9781932565355.

CALL # 371.9 L4144i.
AUTHOR Lavoie, Richard D.
TITLE It’s so much work to be your friend : helping the child with learning disabilities find social success / Richard Lavoie.
IMPRINT New York : Simon & Schuster, c2005.
DESCRIPT liv, 394 p. ; 25 cm.
NOTE “A Touchstone book.”
NOTE Includes index.
SUBJECT Social skills in children.
SUBJECT Learning disabled children.
SUBJECT Social acceptance in children.
SUBJECT Interpersonal relations in children.
ISBN/ISSN 0743254635.
ISBN/ISSN 9780743254632.

CALL # DVD 371.9 I898.
TITLE It’s so much work to be your friend [videorecording] : helping the child with learning disabilities find social success / presented by Richard Lavoie ; director, Bob Comiskey.
EDITION Full screen version.
IMPRINT New York : PBS Video, c2005.
DESCRIPT 1 videodisc (90 min.) : sd., col. ; 4 3/4 in.
NOTE DVD; Dolby digital.
NOTE In English or Spanish with optional Spanish subtitles; closed-
captioned.
NOTE Executive producers, Niki Vettel and Dennis Allen ; cameras, Bob
Birkett … [et al.] ; editor, David Feder ; music, Steven
Schoenberg.
NOTE Based on the book with the same title by Richard Lavoie.
NOTE The lives of most children are filled with joy, laughter, and
their daily adventures with friends, classmates, and teammates.
Some children, however, seem unable to make these important
connections with peers and, as a result, are often islolated
and ignored. Richard Lavoie explores the causes and
consequences of “social incompetence.” He provides strategies
for teaching friendship skills in the classroom, at home, and
in the community.
NOTE Just one friend. Affective matching ; Social memory ; Social
prediction ; Social relevance — They are missing 93%,
paralinguistics. Kenesics ; Proxemics ; Vocalics ; Artifactual
systems — It’s really much more than manners. Reputation
management — Who are your friends? — The coin of the realm,
playdates — The greatest gift.
NOTE DVD special features: Focus on Bullying, Boys + Girls +
Friendships – It’s All Different!
SUBJECT Social skills in children.
SUBJECT Learning disabled children.
SUBJECT Social acceptance in children.
SUBJECT Interpersonal relations in children.
ISBN/ISSN 9780793690510 (liner)
ISBN/ISSN 079369051X (liner)
ISBN/ISSN 841887005524.

CALL # 618.92 N899t 2012.
AUTHOR Notbohm, Ellen.
TITLE Ten things every child with autism wishes you knew / Ellen Notbohm.
EDITION Updated & expanded ed.
IMPRINT Arlington, TX : Future Horizons, c2012.
ISBN/ISSN 9781935274650 (trade pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 1935274651 (trade pbk.)

CALL # 155.232 Z43h.
AUTHOR Zeff, Ted.
TITLE The highly sensitive person’s survival guide : essential skills for living well in an overstimulating world / Ted Zeff.
IMPRINT Oakland, Calif. : New Harbinger, 2004.
DESCRIPT 192 p. ; 16 cm.
SUBJECT Sensitivity (Personality trait)
SUBJECT Self actualization (Psychology)
SUBJECT Stress management.
SUBJECT Stress (Psychology)
ISBN/ISSN 1572243961 (pbk.)

CALL # 618.92 G4758r.
AUTHOR Gill-Weiss, Mary Jane.
TITLE Reaching out, joining in : teaching social skills to young children with autism / Mary Jane Weiss, Sandra L. Harris.
EDITION 1st ed.
IMPRINT Bethesda, MD : Woodbine House, 2001.
DESCRIPT xiv, 225 p. : ill. ; 22 cm.
SERIES Topics in autism.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references and index.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Rehabilitation.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Education.
SUBJECT Social skills in children.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Behavior modification.
SUBJECT Behavioral assessment.
ALT AUTHOR Harris, Sandra L.
ISBN/ISSN 1890627240 (pbk.) :

CALL # 649.1526 D2727s.
AUTHOR Dawson, Peg.
TITLE Smart but scattered : the revolutionary “executive skills” approach to helping kids reach their potential / Peg Dawson, Richard Guare.
IMPRINT New York : Guilford Press, c2009.
DESCRIPT vi, 314 p. : ill. ; 26 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 303-309) and index.
SUBJECT Parenting.
SUBJECT Executive ability in children.
SUBJECT Children — Life skills guides.
SUBJECT Child development.
SUBJECT Parent and child.
ALT AUTHOR Guare, Richard.
ISBN/ISSN 9781593854454 (pbk. : alk. paper)
ISBN/ISSN 1593854455 (pbk. : alk. paper)
ISBN/ISSN 9781593859879 (alk. paper)
ISBN/ISSN 1593859872 (alk. paper)

CALL # j153.43 B.
AUTHOR Burns, Marilyn, 1941-
TITLE The book of think : or, How to solve a problem twice your size / written by Marilyn Burns : illustrated by Martha Weston.
EDITION 1st ed.
IMPRINT Boston : Little, Brown, c1976.
DESCRIPT 125 p. : ill. ; 26 cm.
SERIES Brown paper school book.
SUBJECT Problem solving.
SUBJECT Problem solving — Problems, exercises, etc.
ISBN/ISSN 0316117439.
ISBN/ISSN 0316117420.

CALL # j618.92 V484s.
AUTHOR Verdick, Elizabeth.
TITLE The survival guide for kids with autism spectrum disorders (and their parents) / Elizabeth Verdick & Elizabeth Reeve ; illustrated by Nick Kobyluch.
IMPRINT Minneapolis, MN : Free Spirit Pub., c2012.
DESCRIPT 234 p. : col. ill. ; 23 cm.
NOTE “This positive, straightforward book offers kids with autism
spectrum disorders (ASDs) their own comprehensive resource for
both understanding their condition and finding tools to cope
with the challenges they face every day. Some children with
ASDs are gifted; others struggle academically. Some are more
introverted, while others try to be social. Some get “stuck” on
things, have limited interests, or experience repeated motor
movements like flapping or pacing (“stims”). The Survival Guide
for Kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders covers all of these
areas, with an emphasis on helping children gain new self-
understanding and self-acceptance. Meant to be read with a
parent, the book addresses questions (“What’s an ASD?” “Why
me?”) and provides strategies for communicating, making and
keeping friends, and succeeding in school. Body and brain
basics highlight symptom management, exercise, diet, hygiene,
relaxation, sleep, and toileting. Emphasis is placed on helping
kids handle intense emotions and behaviors and get support from
family and their team of helpers when needed. The book includes
stories from real kids, fact boxes, helpful checklists,
resources, and a glossary. Sections for parents offer more
detailed information”– Provided by publisher.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references and index.
SUBJECT Children with autism spectrum disorders — Juvenile literature.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Family relationships — Juvenile literature.
SUBJECT Parents of autistic children — Juvenile literature.
ALT AUTHOR Reeve, Elizabeth.
ALT AUTHOR Kobyluch, Nick, ill.
ISBN/ISSN 9781575423852 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 1575423855 (pbk.)

CALL # 646.7008 D5378s.
AUTHOR Diamond, Susan, 1961-
TITLE Social rules for kids : the top 100 social rules kids need to succeed / Susan Diamond ; foreword by Ann Gordon.
IMPRINT Shawnee Mission, Kan. : AAPC Pub., c2011.
DESCRIPT xi, 131 p. : ill. ; 23 cm.
NOTE Many parents are not sure of what to say and do to help their
children improve their social interactions. Social Rules for
Kids – The Top 100 Social Rules Kids Need to Succeed helps open
the door of communication between parent and child by
addressing 100 social rules for home, school, and the
community. Using simple, easy-to-follow rules covering topics
such as body language, manners, feelings and more, this book
aims to make students lives easier and more successful by
outlining specific ways to interact with others on a daily
basis.
SUBJECT Social skills in adolescence — Handbooks, manuals, etc.
SUBJECT Socialization — Handbooks, manuals, etc.
SUBJECT Interpersonal relations in adolescence — Handbooks, manuals,
etc.
SUBJECT Social skills — Handbooks, manuals, etc.
SUBJECT Interpersonal relations — Handbooks, manuals, etc.
ALT AUTHOR Gordon, Ann, Ph.D., BCET.
ISBN/ISSN 9781934575840 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 1934575844 (pbk.)

CALL # j618.9285 K254a.
AUTHOR Keating-Velasco, Joanna L.
TITLE A is for autism, F is for friend : a kid’s book on making friends with a child who has an autism spectrum disorder / Joanna L. Keating-Velasco.
IMPRINT Shawnee Mission, Kan. : Autism Asperger Pub. Co., 2007.
DESCRIPT vii, 54 p. : ill. ; 23 cm.
NOTE Audience: ages 8-12.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references.
NOTE Eleven-year-old Chelsea explains what autism is, what it is like
to live with autism, and how to make friends with an autistic
child.
SUBJECT Autism in children — Juvenile literature.
SUBJECT Friendship — Juvenile literature.
SUBJECT Social acceptance in children — Juvenile literature.
ADD TITLE A is for autism, F is for friend.
ISBN/ISSN 9781931282437.
ISBN/ISSN 1931282439.

CALL # 331.59 S598a.
AUTHOR Simone, Rudy.
TITLE Asperger’s on the job : must-have advice for people with Asperger’s or high functioning autism, and their employers, educators, and advocates / Rudy Simone ; [foreword by Temple Grandin]
IMPRINT Arlington, Tex. : Future Horizons, c2010.
DESCRIPT xix, 156 p. ; 23 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 141-149) and index.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome — Patients — Employment.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome — Patients — Vocational guidance.
SUBJECT Developmentally disabled — Employment.
SUBJECT Developmentally disabled — Vocational guidance.
ALT AUTHOR Grandin, Temple.
ISBN/ISSN 9781935274094 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 1935274090 (pbk.)

CALL # 649.15 C999s.
AUTHOR Czudner, Gad.
TITLE Small criminals among us : how to recognize and change children’s antisocial behavior– before they explode / by Gad Czudner.
IMPRINT Far Hills, N.J. : New Horizon Press, c1999.
DESCRIPT 196 p. ; 24 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 193-196)
SUBJECT Problem children.
SUBJECT Behavior disorders in children.
SUBJECT Child rearing.
ISBN/ISSN 0882821806 (pbk.) : $14.95.
ISBN/ISSN 1271450031.
ISBN/ISSN 780882821801.

CALL # 618.9285882 H865r.
AUTHOR Howley, Marie.
TITLE Revealing the hidden social code : social stories for people with autistic spectrum disorders / Marie Howley and Eileen Arnold ; foreword by Carol Gray.
IMPRINT London ; Philadelphia : J. Kingsley Publishers, 2005.
DESCRIPT 160 p. : ill. ; 24 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 151-155) and indexes.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Education.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Rehabilitation.
SUBJECT Autistic children — Behavior modification.
SUBJECT Social skills in children — Study and teaching.
SUBJECT Narration (Rhetoric) — Psychological aspects.
SUBJECT Narrative therapy.
ALT AUTHOR Arnold, Eileen, 1944-
ISBN/ISSN 1843102226 (pbk. : alk. paper)
ISBN/ISSN 9781843102229.

CALL # 649.1 E481u.
AUTHOR Elman, Natalie Madorsky.
TITLE The unwritten rules of friendship : simple strategies to help your child make friends / by Natalie Madorsky Elman and Eileen Kennedy-Moore.
EDITION 1st ed.
IMPRINT Boston : Little, Brown, c2003.
DESCRIPT xi, 340 p. : ill. ; 21 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. [317]-324) and index.
SUBJECT Friendship in children.
SUBJECT Social skills in children.
SUBJECT Child rearing.
ALT AUTHOR Kennedy-Moore, Eileen.
ISBN/ISSN 9780316917308 (trade pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 0316917303 (trade pbk.)

CALL # 618.928588 N822q.
AUTHOR Norall, Cynthia La Brie.
TITLE Quirky, yes–hopeless, no : practical tips to help your child with Asperger’s syndrome be more socially accepted / Cynthia La Brie Norall, with Beth Wagner Brust.
EDITION 1st ed.
IMPRINT New York : St. Martin’s Griffin, 2009.
DESCRIPT xxv, 354 p. ; 24 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references and index.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome in children — Popular works.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome in children — Social aspects.
ALT AUTHOR Brust, Beth Wagner.
ISBN/ISSN 9780312558499 (pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 031255849X (pbk.)

CALL # 362.1968982 W714p.
AUTHOR Willey, Liane Holliday.
TITLE Pretending to be normal : living with Asperger’s syndrome / Liane Holliday Willey ; foreword by Tony Attwood.
IMPRINT London ; Philadelphia : Jessica Kingsley, 1999.
DESCRIPT 175 p. ; 23 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographic references ( p. 175 )
SUBJECT Willey, Liane Holliday.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome — Patients — Biography.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome — Popular works.
ISBN/ISSN 1853027499.

CALL # 616.85 C281a.
AUTHOR Carley, Michael John.
TITLE Asperger’s from the inside out : a supportive and practical guide for anyone with Asperger’s syndrome / Michael John Carley ; foreword by Peter F. Gerhardt.
EDITION 1st ed.
IMPRINT New York : Perigee, 2008.
DESCRIPT xvii, 252 p. ; 20 cm.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome — Popular works.
ISBN/ISSN 9780399533976.
ISBN/ISSN 0399533974.

CALL # 616.85882 G753w.
AUTHOR Grandin, Temple.
TITLE The way I see it : a personal look at autism and Asperger’s / Temple Grandin.
IMPRINT Arlington, Tex. : Future Horizons Inc c2008.
DESCRIPT xxxi, 260 p. : ill. ; 23 cm.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references and index.
NOTE Grandin offers helpful do’s and don’ts, practical strategies, and
try-it-now tips, all based on her “insider” perspective and a
great deal of research.
SUBJECT Autism.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome.
SUBJECT Autism in children.
SUBJECT Asperger’s syndrome in children.
ISBN/ISSN 9781932565720.
ISBN/ISSN 1932565728.

CALL # 371.9 H3432c 2001.
AUTHOR Harwell, Joan M., 1936-
TITLE Complete learning disabilities handbook : ready-to-use strategies & activities for teaching students with learning disabilities / Joan M. Harwell.
ISBN/ISSN 0130325627 (pbk.)

CALL # 618.9285 K897o 2005.
AUTHOR Kranowitz, Carol Stock.
TITLE The out-of-sync child : recognizing and coping with sensory
processing disorder / Carol Stock Kranowitz.
NOTE Includes bibliographical references (p. 333-346) and index.
SUBJECT Minimal brain dysfunction in children.
SUBJECT Sensorimotor integration.
SUBJECT Perceptual-motor learning.
ISBN/ISSN 9780399531651 (trade pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 0399531653 (trade pbk.)
ISBN/ISSN 9780399523861.
ISBN/ISSN 0399523863.

CALL # 613.7 G212i
AUTHOR Garabedian, Helen
TITLE Itsy Bitsy Yoga for toddlers and preschoolers : 8-minute routines to help your child grow smarter, be happier, and behave better / Helen Garabedian
IMPRINT Cambridge, MA : Da Capo/Lifelong, c2008
DESCRIPT 216 p. : ill. ; 24 cm
SUBJECT Hatha yoga for children, Exercise for children ISBN 9781600940088, 1600940080

Asperger’s Rules – by Blythe Grossberg

The Prayer to Our Father

This is from http://www.thenazareneway.com/lords_prayer.htm
These three new translations of The Lord’s Prayer give a whole new insight into the meaning.

The Prayer To Our Father
(in the original Aramaic)

Abwûn
“Oh Thou, from whom the breath of life comes,

d’bwaschmâja
who fills all realms of sound, light and vibration.

Nethkâdasch schmach
May Your light be experienced in my utmost holiest.

Têtê malkuthach.
Your Heavenly Domain approaches.

Nehwê tzevjânach aikâna d’bwaschmâja af b’arha.
Let Your will come true – in the universe (all that vibrates)
just as on earth (that is material and dense).

Hawvlân lachma d’sûnkanân jaomâna.
Give us wisdom (understanding, assistance) for our daily need,

Waschboklân chaubên wachtahên aikâna
daf chnân schwoken l’chaijabên.
detach the fetters of faults that bind us, (karma)
like we let go the guilt of others.

Wela tachlân l’nesjuna
Let us not be lost in superficial things (materialism, common temptations),

ela patzân min bischa.
but let us be freed from that what keeps us off from our true purpose.

Metol dilachie malkutha wahaila wateschbuchta l’ahlâm almîn.
From You comes the all-working will, the lively strength to act,
the song that beautifies all and renews itself from age to age.

Amên.
Sealed in trust, faith and truth.
(I confirm with my entire being)

________________________________________
Lord’s Prayer, from the original Aramaic
Translation by Neil Douglas-Klotz in Prayers of the Cosmos

O Birther! Father- Mother of the Cosmos
Focus your light within us – make it useful.
Create your reign of unity now-
through our fiery hearts and willing hands
Help us love beyond our ideals
and sprout acts of compassion for all creatures.
Animate the earth within us: we then
feel the Wisdom underneath supporting all.
Untangle the knots within
so that we can mend our hearts’ simple ties to each other.
Don’t let surface things delude us,
But free us from what holds us back from our true purpose.
Out of you, the astonishing fire,
Returning light and sound to the cosmos.
Amen.

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Lords Prayer, from Aramaic into Old English
Translation by G.J.R. Ouseley from The Gospel of the Holy Twelve

Our Father-Mother Who art above and within:
Hallowed be Thy Name in twofold Trinity.
In Wisdom, Love and Equity Thy Kingdom come to all.
Thy will be done, As in Heaven so in Earth.
Give us day by day to partake of Thy holy Bread, and the fruit of the living Vine.
As Thou dost forgive us our trespasses, so may we forgive others who trespass against us.
Shew upon us Thy goodness, that to others we may shew the same.
In the hour of temptation, deliver us from evil.
Amun.

From http://www.thenazareneway.com/lords_prayer.htm

Prayers and stories I like

All of these prayers/poems/stories are helpful and useful. They are from many sources.

The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
~ Rumi ~

(The Essential Rumi, versions by Coleman Barks)

Rules for being Human
1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”

4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5. Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.

6. “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10. You will forget all this.

(I first read this half my life ago. It was on a copied piece of paper, posted on the fridge in a stranger’s house in the Washington DC area. Then I saw it again years later at a jewelry show in a dorm in Chattanooga. This has been attributed to many people.)

Here is an ancient Chinese story to illustrate an important point:

A Chinese gentleman lived on the border of China and Mongolia. In those days, there was constant conflict and strife along the perimeter. The man had a beautiful horse. One day, she leaped over the corral, raced down the road, crossed the border, and was captured by the Mongolians. His friends came to comfort him. “That’s bad news,” they said sadly. “What makes you think it’s bad news?” asked the Chinese gentleman. “Maybe it’s good news.” A few days later the mare came bolting into his corral, bringing with it a massive stallion. His friends crowded around. “That’s good news!” they cried. “What makes you think it’s good news?” he asked. “Maybe it is bad news.” Later, his son, while riding the stallion and trying to break it, was thrown off and broke his leg. “That’s bad news,” cried the friends. “What makes you think it is bad news?” asked the Chinese gentleman. “Maybe it’s good news.” One week later, war broke out with Mongolia, and a Chinese general came through, drafting all the young men. All later perished, except for the young man who couldn’t go because his leg was broken. The man said to his friends, “You see, the things you thought were bad turned out good; and the things you thought were good turned out bad.

The Prayer of St. Francis

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love.
Where there is injury, pardon.
Where there is doubt, faith.
Where there is despair, hope.
Where there is darkness, light.
Where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.
Amen.

The Prayer of St. Theresa of Avila
Christ has no body but yours,
No hands, no feet on earth but yours,
Yours are the eyes with which he looks
Compassion on this world,
Yours are the feet with which he walks to do good,
Yours are the hands, with which he blesses all the world.
Yours are the hands, yours are the feet,
Yours are the eyes, you are his body.
Christ has no body now but yours,
No hands, no feet on earth but yours,
Yours are the eyes with which he looks
compassion on this world.
Christ has no body now on earth but yours.

Saint Patrick’s Breastplate
I bind unto myself today
The strong Name of the Trinity,
By invocation of the same,
The Three in One and One in Three.
I bind this day to me for ever.
By power of faith, Christ’s incarnation;
His baptism in the Jordan river;
His death on Cross for my salvation;
His bursting from the spicèd tomb;
His riding up the heavenly way;
His coming at the day of doom;*
I bind unto myself today.
I bind unto myself the power
Of the great love of the cherubim;
The sweet ‘well done’ in judgment hour,
The service of the seraphim,
Confessors’ faith, Apostles’ word,
The Patriarchs’ prayers, the Prophets’ scrolls,
All good deeds done unto the Lord,
And purity of virgin souls.
I bind unto myself today
The virtues of the starlit heaven,
The glorious sun’s life-giving ray,
The whiteness of the moon at even,
The flashing of the lightning free,
The whirling wind’s tempestuous shocks,
The stable earth, the deep salt sea,
Around the old eternal rocks.
I bind unto myself today
The power of God to hold and lead,
His eye to watch, His might to stay,
His ear to hearken to my need.
The wisdom of my God to teach,
His hand to guide, His shield to ward,
The word of God to give me speech,
His heavenly host to be my guard.
Against the demon snares of sin,
The vice that gives temptation force,
The natural lusts that war within,
The hostile men that mar my course;
Or few or many, far or nigh,
In every place and in all hours,
Against their fierce hostility,
I bind to me these holy powers.
Against all Satan’s spells and wiles,
Against false words of heresy,
Against the knowledge that defiles,
Against the heart’s idolatry,
Against the wizard’s evil craft,
Against the death wound and the burning,
The choking wave and the poisoned shaft,
Protect me, Christ, till Thy returning.
Christ be with me, Christ within me,
Christ behind me, Christ before me,
Christ beside me, Christ to win me,
Christ to comfort and restore me.
Christ beneath me, Christ above me,
Christ in quiet, Christ in danger,
Christ in hearts of all that love me,
Christ in mouth of friend and stranger.
I bind unto myself the Name,
The strong Name of the Trinity;
By invocation of the same.
The Three in One, and One in Three,
Of Whom all nature hath creation,
Eternal Father, Spirit, Word:
Praise to the Lord of my salvation,
Salvation is of Christ the Lord.