Our culture is so squeamish about death. Death is just the other side of birth. But we hide that too. We do both with strangers, in hospitals. We used to do them in our homes, with our friends and family. Both used to be a normal part of life. Now they both have been taken away from us. Or rather, we’ve given them away.
Just like people are starting to get the idea that a home birth can be a safe and fulfilling experience, so too can death. These aren’t medical procedures. There isn’t anything wrong. They don’t need doctors or nurses. They need trained helpers, midwives.
Fear comes from ignorance. Learn everything you can and it won’t be scary. Don’t know how to find the information you need? Go to the library. That is what the librarians are for. Google “Signs of death” and you’ll find helpful stuff too.
There are signs of approaching death, just like with an approaching birth. They are only scary if you don’t know them.
Fear of death just makes it worse. It isn’t a failure. It is natural, and it happens to everybody and everything. It is a transition.
It is leaving this body. The body is just a vehicle for the soul.
Nurses don’t get this. Doctor’s don’t get this. They are worried about giving an overdose of pain medicine to a terminally ill patient.
Why do we show more mercy to a dog than a person? Why does the person have to suffer to the bitter end?