Another part of the reality of being female is that people think they have the right to comment on what you do / say / think / create. This can be from friends, family, or strangers.
Everything we do is viewed as open to opinion and comment.
Topics cover: (this is not an inclusive list)
How we wear our hair:
Short, long, traditional, modern, colored.
Shaved or long.
If we chose to cover our hair.
What clothes we wear and how we wear it:
Whether our clothing is new, old, in style, unique.
Whether we show “too much” skin or not enough.
Whether our clothing is tight or baggy.
What jewelry we wear, or not.
What we do for a living.
Whether we are married or not.
What our religious beliefs are.
What we create, or not.
If we have children or not.
Our body size / shape.
We are not asking for opinion or comments. We are simply living our lives.
Women receive far more unsolicited opinions than men, about every manner of thing. Men feel it is their right to tell women what they think, whether we asked for their opinion or not.
Not all men are like this. However, enough are that this is a problem for all women. Every single woman has experienced unwanted attention from men in the form of unsolicited opinions and comments on what she does, says, or creates.
Every. Single. Woman.
If you are a man and you do not think you have done this, thank you. However – it doesn’t hurt to consider your actions, not matter how innocent or helpful you may think they are. We all can use improvement. What you think is harmless may be received otherwise. Remember, how the other person experiences your actions is what matters the most.
Times are changing. Women are regaining their power. So men need some insight into what is our truth.
Women are not for your enjoyment. They are not a performance piece for you to have an opinion on. We want to be able to live our lives as we choose without having people think they have the right to tell us their opinion (either positive or negative).
A woman’s life is her experience and expression. It belongs to her. She does not need your approval. She does not want your opinion. She does not need your comments.